The Generation Of Sadness

What is with this world today?

I live in a generation where anxiety, depression and suicide isn’t a minority for us anymore. It’s a feeling that most people have and I know that because most of the people I know have suffered from anxiety, depression and even suicidal thoughts before they even hit adulthood and continue to struggle.  Here’s for some statistics to drill in to our heads that this is a thing and depression, bullying and hurt is damaging this generation: 25% of all teens have anxiety, about 20% of teens experience depression before they reach adulthood, and between 10 to 15% suffer from symptoms at any one time. 98 children have committed suicide in the last decade and that’s just children aged 10 – 14 years of age. And these are outdated statistics that I know will have increasingly risen over the past few years or even moments it took to read this. I believe the mental health system is not working to the best of its ability and there’s not enough awareness for parents to help their children or even awareness for kids themselves to understand that it’s ok to get help.

There’s so much more pressures, bullying and self-consciousness that kids/ young adults have to deal with at this very second. We as a species seem to push this fact away because it’s so hard for us to understand that children will decide to take their life at such a young age, that teens can have feelings to this extent, that not all the new generation are happy. Especially adults where they believe that children cannot feel low, they cannot have stress as they are full of life, imagination and childhood flare.

“It is painful and toxic to think about it, so we hide it and hope it goes away. Today we can see it is not going away. It is a national scandal and we have to talk about it.”

[I found this quote from an article that gives statistics, information and “national scandal”. Here ]

To me this seems like us as grownups (which I’m extremely sad that I’m classed as one of them) forget that children and teens have a mind that can be broken by the stress we push upon them, that keep every word said inside and are not yet completely finding their feet in the world or even know how it works. This keeps with them throughout their life leaving them struggling with self-consciousness, confusing and some sort of depression in many cases. Many people will say that they don’t push stress on kids, teens and young adults but this can be simple stuff that doesn’t affect the older generation like:

  • An never ending  struggle of finding a career path
  • Finding a part time job
  • Education
  • Judgement
  • Being expected to act like an adult but treated like a toddler.
  • Balancing studying, work life, family, friends and time to themselves.
  • Not being good enough for the expectations.

And many more assurances that seem to doom upon kids as they grow up and become more aware of their leading life, fully understanding that childhood can not last forever unlike their beloved Disney character Peter Pan {In turn also learning the true meaning of peter pan that pretty much broke my heart while in the transition from childhood to teen.}
This society is full of crippling anxiety because we are becoming more of judgmental atmosphere than ever before, which seems odd to me as bully awareness and prevention is at it’s all time high, isn’t it?
But why are we becoming this horrible, judgmental group of humans? I think it’s simply because no one is good enough for themselves and that’s why many people feel the need to bring somebodies low self-esteem even further down than it already is. Making them feel a tiny bit better about themselves for at least a split second. After looking at photo shopped photos, popular accounts and an online personality persona that frankly doesn’t exist, kids get the wrong idea of ‘what they are supposed to be’ in many cases leaving them confused at who they are, what they are here for and why on earth they are stuck in this merry-go-round of life.

We are our own worst enemy…

 

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Its okay to be a glow stick, sometimes we need to break before we shine

 

It’s okay to be broken. Unfortunately, I was one of them kids, a mind I couldn’t build because I was pushed to the bottom before I was able to shine. But a quote I’ve grown to love explains that been broken can lead to shining. We need to encourage kids in to knowing its okay not to be okay. It’s okay to not know why they aren’t okay and it’s definitely okay to get help for the feelings they have. I know this because I feel I’m not allowed to ask for help or talk to someone about how I feel and the way I’m bringing myself down. Even when I pluck up the courage to talk to someone in my mid they make me feel I’m wasting their time and I have no problem at all because everyone feels “sad” and that’s true, no one is truly happy everyday but not everyone thinks about death more than they think about their future.

Just to end I’d like to add to the statistics from above to really show how this generation are struggling and make sure people know it’s not a struggle on their own. From mental health organization Young Minds, I have discovered that these statistics are extortionate for the ability of us as a species. We are able to support each other but choose to see mental health as a scary illness that shouldn’t be spoken about and is most certainly pushed under the rug like biscuit crumbs.

  • One in Four (26%) young people in the UK experience suicidal thoughts
  • Among teenagers, rates of depression and anxiety have increased by 70% in the past 25 years, particularly since the mid 1980’s
  • Nearly 300,000 young people in Britain have an anxiety disorder.
  • 1 in 10 suicides in the UK are by those aged 15-24

Everybody needs someone to talk to, to be able to trust and know they are there for support. The next generation deserve a helping hand and reassurance that it’s okay to not be okay, it’s okay to feel the way they do. And adults need to understand that not every child is happy and not every child has the flare you expect.

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